Amanda & Jason: Third Time Around

120 years = a high bar set

Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24 ESV).

http://www.technicaluk.com/851-ph41298-chloroquine-phosphate-bestellen.html where can i buy cheap clomid pills Jason's View: Marriage has always been extremely important to me because of my two role models...my parents. John and Tula Zaharis were married in June 1950. They met while in the Navy and by military regulations were not suppose to be fraternizing. After many dates and conversations they decided to leave the military and get married. My parents supported each other in all aspects of life and marriage. The GI bill, along with my mother working nights, allowed my father to reach his educational success. My mother continued to enjoy being a registered nurse working in many different areas. Both took care of us kids (all 9) by splitting parental duties. While my dad watched us nights and went to school during the day, my mom worked nights and took care of us during the day. The numerous pieces of advice and lessons learned from my parents to this day influence my views about marriage. While recently talking with them about this blog, their advice continued. "Conversation is a key factor, and we dealt with issues day by day. We also never complained, we just figured it out and did what was needed." I have many fond memories growing up with my parents constantly showing me what a true marriage was about. This showed in marriages of my older siblings too.

chloroquine phosphate injection use in hindi Divorce was not a word used or heard in my family growing up. My parents might have had problems along their long road of marriage, but divorce was not an option. When I was married for the first time I was confident this was it. I was blessed with becoming a father (twice), was working full time to provide for my family, and thought I had everything. Two key pieces of advice taught to me growing up and just mentioned above, I blindly did not do. Communication was no longer happening and complaining had become a norm. Divorce that I said would never happen to me, became an ugly reality. However, my amazing parents were there to pick me up, dust me off, and get me back into life in only the way parents can do. After a couple years I decided to give marriage a second go. This time I knew what to do different and was sure I found the right wife. After a few years the foundation I thought was solid in my marriage was only a house built on sand. The dreaded divorce word was entering my life again. Doubting my own thoughts, decisions I had made, and untruths being told of me, major depression took hold of me. Once again my parents and siblings were there. Seeking help for my depression and having made the conscious choice to involve God into my life just prior to my second marriage ending made getting back into life easier.

Now as Amanda and I are about to be married, I finally see what I was always missing. I have found the person that makes me smile and enjoy everything life puts in front of us. She is my best friend and partner in life. Communication is not a chore with us. We both are constantly talking, and absolutely no topic is "taboo" to discuss. No matter the roadblock we are having to deal with, we never give up. We figure it out together and keep going. Making sure I continue to build a relationship with God and Amanda is a key factor to ensuring I don't make the mistakes of my past part of my future.

Genesis 2:18 (KJV) "And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him."

where can i buy dapoxetine in india Amanda's View: 50 years...for most of us it is hard enough to like ourselves that long much less someone else! My parents, Ken and Barbara Brooks - the original Ken & Barbie (or so I'm told)...celebrated the big 50 anniversary last May! My parents met at a Square Dance in North Carolina where my father followed my mother home to find out where she lived...and the rest is history! Our family is comprised of my parents and two younger brothers. What I remember most about my parents relationship is that they always worked together to accomplish the needs of our household. Neither was less than when it came to getting life done...Dad took care of the yard, gardening, cars, worked overtime, sometimes worked multiple jobs, cooked, helped change sheets and even wore a ballerina tutu once upon a time. Mom cleaned, cooked, took us to the doctor, clipped coupons, worked outside and inside the home and was accepting of all stray animals Dad brought home. Both of my parents put in 100% effort - I never heard the words "that's not my job" or "i'm not suppose to do that." My Dad was not helpless and most definitely could fend for himself if my mom was not around to do something. Likewise, when my youngest brother came along and mom needed to stay home with him she took care of a few other kids in our home to make money and ends meet!

I can truly say my fondest memories were those of being with family, whether spent with my parents and siblings or our extended families on either side. I know there were arguments and tough times but there was never any giving up! No one in my mom or dad's families were divorced and we never heard nor dealt with any implications of it. Unlike the relationships I've been in, my parents did not treat each other conditionally. They were in the moment, in the month, in the marriage for the long haul...does that mean it was easy? Absolutely not, but they did not hold grudges or hold off on meeting the families needs because they were bitter. I never heard any insults or witnessed any other type of abuse toward each other. My parents were married because they were in love, were willing to do whatever it took to make a life and were there to unconditionally support each other.

During my first marriage I vividly remember pleading and questioning why we were always fighting as the purpose of a marriage was to work together. I mean why on earth does one get married and not want to please their spouse? Our spouse is to be that person in our lives we can vent to, dream with and the one who will make the hard days all better!! Unfortunately within many marriages the spouse can also be the cause of those hard days. There were definitely communication issues within my second marriage among many other things.

Sitcom put downs and "burning" have replaced true and meaningful conversation. Marriages have moved away from working together for the common good to so much more emphasis on ME!! Yep...how about Social MEdia? What use to just be struggles of a marriage are now on display for the whole world to see and weigh in with an opinion. As Jason stated it is so refreshing to have a relationship where open communication is key. If something feels off we talk about it right then and there. No sweeping it under the rug or trying to bring it up later over text message. In a world full of alternative means of communication true, one on one, in the moment speaking is still the best mode. It is such a blessing that we have parents who bring 120 years of dedication, devotion and love to our lives and are still the shining examples today!

Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you."

 

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